There are many ways to go about this exciting task. And that is maybe where you should start. Do not see it as a hassle, do not view the pick-up stage as just something necessary evil, a stage that you have to torment yourself through in order to rip the panties off of the lady at the other end of the bar with the swollen behind.
You need to be a hunter. You need to be enjoying the thrilling tension of the whole game, from the first looks, that you just exchange so quickly that neither one of you quite know what to make of it, to when you start lingering with your gaze a little bit longer, just stopping short of inappropriately long.
You need to be able to cherish that feeling of arousal as your heart starts to race a little bit harder when your designated fuck for the evening passes you by and returns your horny look. If you feel uncomfortable or impatient with this stage, it will seriously shine through and impair your chances of getting any action.
If you do not enjoy this theater of life, the whole play-act of the pick-up, then you are probably better off just signing up for an adult dating site where this stage is already over and done with as the two of you finally meet up. If the mood during the pick-up stage is playful, searching, and charge with sexual curiosity; the mood during the first face-to-face encounter if you have set-up a date through an adult dating site, is likely to be charged with a more palpable horniness.
What you prefer is really just a matter of personality. Some guys need and want that feeling of winning the woman over, of seeing her in a bar and strike up a conversation, where both are fully aware that these are the first few careful steps of the foreplay dance, but it is not a given that you will dance all the way through to the end of the song.
Others prefer the more straightforward approach of an adult dating site. Where the online profile tells you what you need to know about a person, especially regarding her sexual fantasies, and the whole beating around the bush of what the two of you are actually after is rendered unnecessary.
The game of the pick-up has some rules and regulations that you will have to abide by if you want to be successful player. When you go through the adult dating site, that is essentially like breaking all those rules. In the first case scenario you have to be smooth, you have to play down your sexual urge, only letting her sense it underneath the surface.
In the other case, everything is out in the open, it is all about your sexual urges and animal lusts, and you will not have to pretend like you are finding the topic of her two Chihuahuaís Chichi and Coco interesting in order to get in her pants later that evening.
However you choose to approach it, we salute you. Because there are so many hot South African women out there just longing to get fucked that someone needs to step up to the platter.